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如何礼貌地拒绝参加你不想参加的团队建设活动?
Why It’s OK to Ditch Work Social Events
为什么我们可以不参加工作中的社交活动
 
Maybe this is the case at your company. Or, maybe you’re looking to make friends in a new role and, every time you miss an event, you’re convinced that you’re losing a prime opportunity to lock those relationships down.
也许你的公司就是这样。 或者,也许你刚刚换了新的工作,想交朋友。每次你错过一项活动,你都会觉得自己失去了巩固关系的绝佳机会。
 
But you shouldn’t ever feel like you have to make friends at the office or attend work social events at any cost.
但是你不应该觉得你必须在办公室交朋友或者不惜一切代价参加社交活动。。
Sure, you could keep dragging yourself to events that you have no real interest in, but keeping this charade up is exhausting and not always productive. As long as you’re happy with the rest of your job, you feel respected, your ideas are heard, you enjoy the work you’re doing—it’s OK to let this one thing go.
 
当然,你可以继续强迫自己参加一些不感兴趣的活动,但是你已经厌倦了伪装自己,这并不总是有效的。只要你对你工作的其他方面感到满意,你就会感到被尊重,你的想法会被倾听,你喜欢你所做的事情,顺其自然是件好事。
Whether you’re three months or three years in, introverted or extroverted, looking to make friends or not, socializing with your co-workers should be something you choose to do. Having a good relationship with the people you work with is important for clear communication, productivity, and overall job satisfaction, but that relationship can simply be an in-the-office, professional kind.
不管你在这份工作中是三个月还是三年,内向还是外向,不管你是否想交朋友,和同事交往应该是你的选择。。与合作伙伴建立良好的关系对于清晰的沟通、提高生产率和总体工作满意度非常重要,但是这种关系可以简化为工作和职业关系。
Yes, there are times when activities will be heavily encouraged, if not mandatory, like offsites, retreats, or networking events. And in these moments, you’re maybe sacrificing more than just social status by not participating—you’re missing out on a chance to get to know your colleagues, build a stronger team, or even do your job well. But most companies ultimately won’t force you to do something you truly don’t feel comfortable doing.
是的,有时人们被鼓励参加一些活动,如果不是强制性的,比如拓展活动、集体假期或社交活动。此时,你不参与,除了失去你的社会地位——你还有机会了解你的同事,建立一个更强大的团队,甚至做好你的工作。但是大多数公司最终不会强迫你做一些真正不舒服的事情。
More importantly, the best bosses and co-workers (and work friends) understand that certain things come first, whether it’s family or hobbies or personal preferences. Chances are, there have also been plenty of instances when they’ve had to miss out on a team activity because something else was more important.
更重要的是,最好的老板和同事(以及工作上的朋友)明白有些事情更重要,无论是家庭,爱好还是个人偏好。可能有很多情况,他们不得不放弃参加团队活动,因为有其他更重要的事情。
 
 
How to Get Out of Your Next Work Social Event
如何摆脱下一个工作社交活动
Here’s the thing: I’m all too familiar with the difference between knowing you’re allowed to say “no” to work social events and actually having to break the news to your co-workers that you’re going to skip one.
重点来了:我很了解两种情形的区别。一种是你有权对社交活动说“不”,另一种是你要委婉地跟你的同事解释这次活动参加不了。
Sometimes peer pressure sets in and guilts you into attending, and you’re stuck doing something you really don’t want to do. While I can’t guarantee that won’t happen—some people might just continue to pester you or nag you about being a recluse—know that you can dodge their invites respectfully while still keeping the relationships intact.
有时候,来自伴侣的压力会让你对不参与感到内疚,你会在做一些你真的不想做的事情时左右为难。我不能保证这不会发生——有些人可能会继续纠缠你,或者不停地唠叨不参加集体活动有多糟糕。你需要知道的是,你可以礼貌地拒绝邀请,而不会伤害你的感情。
The key in any rejection is to not make it personal. Instead, focus on your decision and why you can’t or won’t join this time. For example, you can say, “Sounds like fun! Unfortunately, something’s come up: [family emergency or conflict]. Pencil me in for the next one?” or “You know I love hanging with you all, but if I’m being completely honest, [activity] isn’t my thing. I hope you have a blast, though!”
拒绝的关键不在于主观。相反,专注于你的决定,或者为什么你不能或者不参加这个会议。例如,你可以说,“听起来很有趣。“! 然而,我有一些暂时的事情:[家里有紧急或尴尬的事情]。下次我会参加。请帮我写下来! 或者“你知道,我喜欢和你出去,但是坦率地说,我对[的活动不感兴趣]。不过,我想让你打个招呼! ”
Or, you can just skip the specifics, thank them, and politely decline: “Thanks for inviting me! I can’t make it, but have a great time!” or “Appreciate you including me, but I already have plans.” In most cases, they’ll accept your rejection and move on.
或者,你可以跳过细节,谢谢他们,礼貌地拒绝:“谢谢你邀请我。"! 我不能去。玩得开心! “或者”谢谢你邀请我,但是我已经安排了其他事情。“在大多数情况下,对方会接受你的拒绝,然后继续这样做。


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